Exploring My Family Tree Let Me Find Answers

It was a typical gray and cool October day when we arrived in ‘s-Hertogenbosch, the Netherlands. The last time I was there, I was a toddler, visiting my Oma and Opa (grandmother and grandfather) with my parents. I’m 58 now. When my husband Peter said e… Continue reading

The Transforming Spark of Late-in-Life Love

My mother, 72, had been a widow for three years when she was set up by mutual friends with Hank, a 75-year-old widower whose wife had died a few months before. Hank lived in Boston and she was in New York City, so they’d spent many hours on the phone b… Continue reading

Our Small and Memorable Wedding

Late on a Thursday afternoon, my fiance, Perry, and I stood at the threshold of my family room. I brushed off a piece of lint from his black tuxedo, then clutched the right side of my dusty rose gown to avoid tripping on the delicate hem. As classical … Continue reading

The Emotional Wallop of My Friend’s Green Burial

My friend Carla saw almost everything in life as a creative challenge — a moment to brainstorm and make a statement. If there was a potluck brunch, no way was she picking up a dozen bagels. Instead, she’d find a recipe for pear-ginger coffee cake, go b… Continue reading

Edie Windsor’s ‘Wild and Precious Life’

In 2013, the United States took a major step forward in the fight for marriage equality, thanks in large part to the determination — and courage — of the late Edie Windsor. The New York City-based octogenarian was the lead plaintiff in a landmark Supre… Continue reading

A Conversation in an Artist’s Studio

In James Wrayge’s quiet studio on an early winter afternoon, there is a tangible sense of  purpose. Wrayge’s paintings line the walls along the portion of the space he shares with another artist at the Northrup King Building in Minneapolis. There are a… Continue reading

How Men Grieve

A friend asked with genuine concern, “How are you?” “I’m OK.  Not very happy, never am. I think the world is a pretty crazy place, but I’m OK,” I replied. “Really?  You look troubled. I’m asking because I want to know how you are … really,” she said. E… Continue reading

How Men Grieve

A friend asked with genuine concern, “How are you?” “I’m OK.  Not very happy, never am. I think the world is a pretty crazy place, but I’m OK,” I replied. “Really?  You look troubled. I’m asking because I want to know how you are … really,” she said. E… Continue reading

Our Siblings, Our Selves

A new study of sibling relationships in later life, linked to well-being, brought the Brown sisters to mind. They are the quartet of women whose annual photographs, over more than four decades in the same pose and in the same order, taken by the same p… Continue reading

Honoring MLK Day, One Pie at a Time

Some people make a difference in over-the-top, attention-getting ways. They’re the ones making loud proclamations about their philanthropy or funding buildings with their names emblazoned on every hallway and parking garage. And then there are people w… Continue reading